How do you respond when someone tells you to, “let it go?” I have been told, in many different contexts, to let something go, and often my response has been, “I will, but…” Which is to say, that I haven’t actually been letting go. I’ve been learning that a true act of letting go contains far greater power than any reason not to ever could.
By letting go, you align yourself with the power of the universe. You surrender to that unending stream of energy always flowing towards your highest potential. So why don’t we let go more often? Simply put, the thinking mind. The mind needs thorough convincing to let go of anything. To let go of a thought, an attachment, a grudge, or a question, the mind requires a foolproof argument to relinquish its firm grasp. The thinking mind loses control over your life when you surrender and let go. It doesn’t know a higher power will take the reigns; all the thinking mind sees is a life out of control, without any safety net. Since the thinking mind is so bent on holding on, it is necessary to go beyond it to experience true surrender. This means instead of convincing your mind to let go, you only need to convince your true self a more wondrous world is waiting for you on the other side of surrender.
How do you know if you’ve really let go? When someone close to you has upset you and you decide to be the more conscious being and let it go, and think to yourself “Yes! I’ve let it go!” that is not surrender. That is the thinking mind holding onto the concept of being more spiritually aware than others, and the idea of letting go. You will know you’ve truly relinquished something when you feel a deep sense of peace, aliveness, and even joy that has nothing to do with your outer circumstance.
When you are having a disagreement with your partner, and no clear resolution has been found, but you feel completely at ease, you have surrendered. This opens you up to being a vessel for solutions. The universe has space to work through you to solve any problem you are experiencing, any dysfunction in the relationship. Another sign that you have surrendered is that your compassion grows. You can listen to your partner more deeply, without the voice in your head whispering internal judgments. You can even understand a point of view you initially disagreed with. Surrender offers unlimited potential for growth, expansion, peace, and love.
For me, writing this is a personal message to assist myself in surrender. Although I am writing thoughts, they help to point me beyond my thinking mind to my true knowing. There are many things in my life I can surrender to, like my work situation, my ideas about how my outer life should look, my opinions, and my ideas about how my loved ones should act. And the only way to discover the miraculous consequences of surrender is to try it out. What in your life can you let go of today?
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since “letting go” feels rather passive, many find the term “throwing out” a more dynamic description of right action. Success in your aspiration!
I love that! Thank you for your insight and support!
I had to come back to this post today. I woke up thinking the same question and then remembered that you wrote about this! I am currently reading ‘The Untethered Soul’ by Michael Singer which talks about this pretty extensively. I loved how you wrote: “That is the thinking mind holding onto the concept of being more spiritually aware than others, and the idea of letting go.” This is what I worry about. I want to make sure that that is not what I am doing. Great post!
Thanks! And I love “The Untethered Soul” it is an amazing book I hope you enjoy it!