It is so easy to become consumed with worry about other people. I find myself worrying about the wellbeing of friends and loved ones, worrying about their habits, the path they are on, how their future will affect my future. Have you ever experienced these thoughts about the people close to you?
When I have these thoughts of worry they seem incredibly important. I am operating under the assumption that if I don’t solve that which I am worried about right now through my own thoughts I will end up worse off in the future, things will go terribly wrong.
Yet, the truth of the matter is that everything in life will come and go except for myself. My being. No matter what happens to those around me, what choices they make, or how they create their future, I will always be myself right here in this one moment called the now. There is nothing that can add to or take away from the being that I am. And my own future is determined by the state of my consciousness right now.
So instead of trying to solve the problems of everyone around me, I return to the only true place of power, the present moment. When you find yourself trying to solve the problems of those around you, and begin to feel overwhelmed, or even start to dread the future, come back to your immediate experience. Shrink the world to the small space you are currently occupying, the perceptions that you are taking in through your five senses, and the breath.
This is real life. This is what is actually happening.
The worries, while they seem so real and important, are no more than thoughts in the head. Although they seem irrefutably valid, allow yourself to relinquish them, and come into the present. All of the solutions you will ever need are contained right here in the present moment. They will arise as needed. The present moment carries you through life with ease and grace. By allowing yourself to come back into the present, you are allowing life to work all situations for your good. Being present is the true nature of trust. Learn to trust the now, trust life, and all of your needs will be, and already are, met.
I feel like you’ve hit the nail on the head, the feeling you are describing is one I know but one I can’t hold onto – therefore I’m consumed by worry. Check out my latest post if you had chance to see if you can relate?
I will definitely check it out! And I totally get where you are coming from, having a mind that is easily taken over by thoughts of worry myself. The good thing is that the state of peace I was describing doesn’t need to be held onto. It is your true nature and has a chance to arise each time you put down the thoughts of worry. Every time the anxiety comes back is another opportunity to learn how to let go, become present, and uncover the peace within. Many blessings on your journey!