I recently talked about experiencing negative emotions and how to sit with them until they dissipate. Sometimes a situation triggers a host of negative reactions that are disproportionate to the event itself. For me, this tends to be how my pain body awakens. The pain body is the energy of past experiences of pain that haven’t been fully processed and continue to live on in the body. When the pain body wakes up it brings with it the opportunity to dissolve the pain you’ve been unconsciously carrying around. It also means you have to feel it, sit with it, and not allow yourself to get distracted.
This happened to me just the other day, and as I was comfortably lying there I found myself wanting to scroll around on my phone, or see what was on TV. If I had allowed myself to get up and go about my day the pain body would have subsided, and I would have gone on having a fine time. But the energy I was experiencing wouldn’t have been dissolved. It would have come up again when the opportunity was right. So I gave myself permission to feel both the uncomfortable negative energy, and the inertia pulling me to get up and do something else. This is an endlessly worthwhile practice. I plan on living for many years, and the benefits of practicing how to deal with negative emotions will be of great assistance on a journey that largely includes letting go.
It is also helpful to learn how to be with negative emotions, and a feeling of restlessness, because it can show you how to accept these energy forces in your friends and partners. I intend for this practice to help me allow my loved ones to experience whatever it is they are going through. It can be just as difficult, if not more, to bring acceptance to the suffering of a loved one. First trying out surrender for yourself can tremendously aid you when you see someone you love going through the same thing. If your loved one is suffering, and there isn’t any physical solution you can bring to them, you can surrender to their pain and be a peaceful presence in their time of need.
As a child growing up my mother would always sit at my bedside when I would cry into my pillow for whatever reason. Even if it wasn’t visible at the time, just having her there helped me heal faster and more profoundly than I would have on my own.
Even further, you can bring surrender to the suffering of those you don’t know but witness day-to-day. When I see homeless human beings on the street I don’t pity them. I see them for the true radiant being that we both are, let go of any judgment of their situation, and smile with a genuine sense of connectedness. If I have a dollar bill I offer it, but even then it is not the money that is healing. The healing takes place in the moment that we are present with each other, without the judgment of the thinking mind, in the kind of communion that sees through the veil of form into our shared reality. Every attempt to “just be” is different, whether it is with myself, a loved one, or someone I just met. No matter how it goes, to let go of judgment and allow the experience to be as it is, is what I call success.
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You are so right, we all need to wallow in our own mud once in a while, as long as we can pull ourselves out of it in the end. And It is difficult to connect with that which makes us uncomfortable which is the reaction that homeless people create in others many times.
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