The ego needs a lot of things. Without wanting, the mind made self loses steam, and your true self beyond the voice in your head begins to emerge. Finding out the nature of your true self beyond what your thoughts are attached to is one of the greatest adventures of being a human. But how can this actually be done?
To the mind, it appears that there is nothing beyond itself, because it only recognizes things. Space is incomprehensible to a thought whose meaning is always attached to some-thing. Yet, space is our home. We are consciousness, that which is aware and watching. We are the space in which all things arise. When you balance your life with space you have access to the power that created the universe.
In Eckhart Tolle’s A New Earth he offers pointers to help create more inner space, and diminish the egoic mind. One of these pointers is to become aware of patterns that operate in your life which attempt to inflate or repair the egoic sense of self. The list of these patterns literally makes me laugh out loud, because I have seen each one operate in my life at one time or another. Experimenting with letting go of these patterns whenever you become aware of them can at first feel uncomfortable, but then give rise to a powerful feeling of spaciousness and peace. The true self then has room to emerge. I hope reading these “ways in which people unconsciously try to emphasize their form-identity,” as Tolle puts it, is as amusing and enlightening to you as it was to me:
- Demanding recognition for something you did and getting angry or upset if you don’t get it
- Trying to get attention by talking about your problems, the story of your illnesses, or making a scene
- Giving your opinion when nobody has asked for it and it makes no difference to the situation
- Being more concerned with how the other person sees you than with the other person, which is to say, using other people for egoic reflection or as ego enhancers
- Trying to make an impression on others through possessions, knowledge, good looks, status, physical strength, and so on
- Bringing about temporary ego inflation through angry reaction against something to someone
- Taking things personally, feeling offended
- Making yourself right and others wrong through futile mental or verbal complaining
- Wanting to be seen, or to appear important (Tolle)