You may not want to hear that, especially if you’re experiencing disappointment, regret, or pain in any form. But learning from your life situation, however it presents itself, is made exponentially easier when you don’t waste time playing mind games with it.
Those mind games can be wishing life were different, thinking about all of the things you could have done differently, and wondering why other people have it so good. These are all ways in which the thinking mind distracts you from the task at hand, which is to accept your life situation as if you had chosen it so that you can get down to the business of inner growth. Because in the end, you’d be learning the same lessons no matter how the outer circumstances of life were presented.
Most importantly, remember that we are all classmates. We all go to the same school, we’re on the same team. It may be hard to watch others around you trying and failing, and bumping into you in the hallways. But we’re all learning. So no matter where your life situation takes you, arm yourself with compassion for yourself and everyone else.