Has someone ever told you an assumption they had about you, and you thought, “Where did that even come from?” Several times throughout my life friends have regaled to me their thoughts about my actions and motivations that had nothing to do with my actual experience. When you’re on this end of an assumption, it is easy to see how inaccurate and unnecessary assumptions are. At worst, assumptions can be destructive and hurtful.
It is a lot harder to notice assumptions when you’re the one assuming. I am positive I make several unconscious assumptions every day. For example, when I’m choosing a TV show to watch at night I’ll think, “My boyfriend doesn’t want to watch this.” Or when I’m talking to a friend I might think, “They don’t want to hear this piece of advice or story that I have.” Assumptions are like a cancer, they multiply without discretion, until they destroy whatever they were attempting to create.
In this video from Super Soul Sunday Don Miguel Ruiz, author of The Four Agreements, lays out the roots of assumption and how to control those thoughts:
2 thoughts on ““Stop Trying to Read Other People’s Minds””
I have not read “The 4 Agreements” yet. I will borrow from friend or library soon.
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